Dating when should you have sex
If, on the other hand, you are looking at the sexual event as a positive turning point in your relationship, then there are some ways to increase your statistical probability that you two lovebirds will be together in the future.
Researcher Dean Busby at BYU has researched tons of couples who commit before getting involved in a sexual relationship and those who do the exact opposite.
It is reasonable to want certain things to take place before you make this decision. Is he understanding about your need to keep the lights off, about your discomfort with your scar…? This is just part of getting to know one another and developing your intimacy. There’s a lot of emotion and body chemistry flying around when you two are in the ‘let’s hop in bed’ mode. Alcohol is actually a stimulant and doesn’t make you more charming.
Ask yourself what you need to feel, do, know or experience before you will sleep with him.
Note that this isn’t about what HE must do…it’s about how YOU will take care of yourself.
Muster it, girlfriend, and decide if he’s just charming and makes you tingle or if he has real depth and relationship potential.
If he’s all tingle and no substance, I say slow the heck down or even run for the hills.